24.3.15

I'm not proud of being able to stay tune all night long to do assignment. I'll be proud if I can do Qiyamul Lail instead.

15.3.15

Coffee Cup #46: Tergesa-Gesa

Rasûlullâh Shallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam bersabda :
إِنَّمَا الْعِلْمُ بِالتَّعَلُّمِ وَإِنَّمَا الْحُلُمَ بِالتَّحَلُّمِ وَمَنْ يَتَحَرَّ الْخَيْرَ يُعْطِهِ وَمَنْ يَتَوَقَّ الشَّرَّ يُوقَهُ

Sesungguhnya ilmu didapatkan dengan belajar dan sesungguhnya hilm (kesabaran dan ketenangan) didapatkan dengan melatihnya. Barangsiapa yang berusaha untuk mendapatkan kebaikan, maka Allâh akan memberikannya. Barangsiapa yang berusaha untuk menghindari keburukan, niscaya akan terhindar darinya.[19] 

[19]. HR Ath-Thabrani di dalam al-Mu’jamul Kabîr no. 1763 dan al-Awsath no. 2663 dan yang lainnya. Syaikh al-Albâni t mengatakan bahwa hadits ini hasan di ash-Shahîhah no. 342.

sumber: http://almanhaj.or.id/content/3673/slash/0/tergesa-gesa-penyakit-manusia/
 
Tergesa-gesa itu sifat dasar manusia. Demikian yang pernah diajarkan kepada saya di sekolah dulu. Dalilnya ada di dalam al-Qur'an surat Al-Isra (7): 11. Silakan dicek... potongan awal ayat tersebut juga cukup menarik (tapi tidak relevan untuk tulisan ini).

Tergesa-gesa bisa saja dilandasi motivasi yang cukup mulia. Ingin segera menjadi orang lebih baik, ingin segera membantu orang lain, ingin segera bisa memberi, ingin perkerjaan segera selesai dengan baik. Namun bagaimana pun, tergesa-gesa menghasilkan sesuatu yang prematur, dan membuahkan penyesalan. Ingatkah cerita kepompong yang digunting dalam rangka membantu kupu-kupu keluar, ternyata malah membuat sang kupu-kupu prematur? Mengingatnya saja saya ngilu.

Untuk menyembuhkan sifat ini, sesuai kutipan hadist di atas, adalah dengan melatihnya. Latihan sendiri butuh niat yang kuat dan kesabaran, bukan? Like a snowball.

Mari kita berlatih. Tiada daya dan upaya melainkan dari-Nya.

5.3.15

Coffee Cup #45: Beyond Capability

Do you know why our gratest ancestor really fond of Qiyamul Lail? Because they were dealing with something beyond their capability. They were humble enough to "say" that they were weak, not smart enough, not strong enough for many task that was assigned to them. But they were actually smart enough to know that the One who can give the strength and ability will answer the prayer during last part of the night while other people were sleeping.

Each day you will find that the challenges are nuts. Eventually you will learn that you can only survive if you follow the path of our wiser ancestor.


3.3.15

Coffee Cup #44: The Way You Address People

Being social is a thing. Especially for you who claim yourself as introvert. An introvert wont easily change into an extrovert. So I think this text is still relevant as long as we live.

Naturally people like to be liked. And the wisest advice would say: you, at first, should like yourself. Your way to appreciate yourself is shown on how you address people around you.

In certain culture, there are people who seems like they would never ever ever greet you. That is not because of their dislike (hardly), but more likely because of (a) your own shyness, (b) their own shyness, (c) you don't know each other it would be creepy, and (d) unimaginable situation. But there is a fact that you should keep in mind: everyone is lonely. Ex group mate, ex class mate, even people who rarely talk to you during your previous encounter naturally likes to be greeted.

It really wont hurt that bad when they ignore your greetings. Probably they (a) don't hear you, (b) simply don't remember you and that's expected (come on!), (c) are drown in serious thought, or (d) in a hurry. What you have to do just use your courage.

As molsem we are also taught to spread salaam. Not only to people we know but also them who we face on the street. The situation in urban area probably makes greeting to stranger a bit strange, but have you ever randomly greeted in the street with smile and nice words? Simply a greeting, without nosy question or following conversation and of course without any effort to rob you. That kind of greeting could really make your day.

I know that beyond school you should have already mastered at least this greeting part of 'socializing' course. The fact is: not few adults in my circles struggle with this problem. No worries. Let's try fellas!

PS. I think I should post this to my junior high school students as well.